Well, hello there!

My name is Ibolya.

Several years ago, I went through a breakup with someone I had big life plans with. Looking back, I realized that at times when he didn't act accordingly to my concepts and ideas, I didn't have the best response. I was loving in the way I knew how at the time, but I came to realize that I wasn’t always loving in a way that truly nurtured the relationship. I wasn’t loving him the ‘right’ way, the 'high' way. Much of that came from my own unhealed wounds and unresolved traumas. It was a painful but eye-opening realization, and it led me to make a commitment to myself: I wouldn’t enter another relationship until I healed, until I could love with a healthy, secure attachment style. I didn't want to just 'rinse and repeat', I wanted to see what's possible with some focus and intention.

That realization cracked me open. Instead of running from the discomfort, I chose to turn inward—to understand, to heal, and to grow. It became central to my life. I read and listened to everything I could about healing, relationships and powers; podcasts, devoured books and interviews—seeking answers to my deep, often existential questions. My search took me from psychology to philosophy, then to spirituality, especially Buddhism, and eventually into the rich experiences of life itself. I brought these lessons into practice, testing and applying them in the real world. 

But I didn’t do this journey fully alone. Along the way -despite the isolation of the lockdown-, I found something that was a very helpful and powerful force. It was the feminine energy. This energy—the gentle, loving, nurturing, supportive, yet badass essence of the feminine—helped me to heal, uplift, and nurture myself. I sensed it through friends, through healers and therapists, teachers, and even in quiet moments spent connecting with it on my own.

As I grew, my circle of female friends shifted, often due to life changes like moving, -- that's a by-product of living in the ever-fluctuating San Francisco Bay Area. The pandemic only added to the feeling of constant change. Friends came and went, communities appeared and disappeared. And I found myself yearning for a stable space to build lasting, meaningful friendships—guided by feminine energies. These new principles and values have only recently come to the surface in our society.  And I'm so glad it did.

That’s when the idea for Artfully Independent took shape: what if I created a platform dedicated to mutual support, healing, uplift, empowerment, a long-term relationship-building space among women? A place where women could find deep, quality friendships based on shared values, mutual growth, and the support we all need along the way. And what if, through this space, I could share my learnings and insights combined with my research..

"...so that others wouldn’t have to spend years navigating this journey alone."

Please know that I don’t claim to know all the answers, but I can offer my experiences and learnings. I'm also well aware that as all of us, I am living in my bubble, that only reaches as far as my physical life and algorithms take me. I recognize that every woman’s journey is different—shaped by culture, upbringing, and personal experiences. That’s why Artfully Independent isn’t about a one-size-fits-all approach, but a shared space where wisdom can flow between us. And if you think your experiences and learnings could serve other women, I highly encourage you to share it on our CommUnity platform. It can be a constant learning for all of us. A healthy giving and receiving. What I do offer though are carefully structured topics in a form of weekly videos (The Artful Sessions) that include lots of  practical knowledge, tips, deep dives and supportive guidance. 

In the meanwhile, as I began to build this vision, I dove into another one of my passions: AI. I was amazed at how empowering it felt to use currently available leading technology thoughtfully and practically in my life, for example the photo-studio quality photos I generated for this website.

With over a decade of experience in tech, I’ve seen firsthand how technical knowledge in this day and age can be a source of independence and confidence. That’s why I’m excited to share not only the wisdom from my personal journey but also practical tech knowledge that can empower each of us.

So, what is Artfully Independent’s vision?

Imagine a world where women don’t just navigate life independently but thrive—fully supported, fully seen, fully in their power.

In this world, women support and uplift women. We challenge the outdated belief that success is a solo journey. Here, independence doesn’t mean isolation—it means stepping into your own power, knowing that a strong, like-minded sisterhood has your back. We connect with others not out of need or attachment, but from a place of joy, strength, freedom and welcomed self-expression.

The women in this CommUnity are bold creators, visionaries, and doers. Some are starting businesses, others are redefining what leadership looks like, and many are reclaiming their personal power, and with it, their freedom.

Those in relationships are there by choice, with healthy attachment styles, strong boundaries, and deep self-worth. They lead with confidence, knowing that love is something to build, not something to chase.

And the more we engage with each other, the more we Create together. Conversations spark new ideas. Friendships evolve into collaborations. Support turns into action. 

Artfully Independent is here for you if this journey and vision resonates with you. It's a supportive, safe space to explore, learn and connect, where you can share stories, learn from others, build long-term friendships, and grow in ways that empower you to live artfully and independently.

This journey begins now. And we take it—together.

This is the energy I carry into everything I do. And if you’re here, it means you carry it too. Let’s rise together.